Power Hour with Kara Norman- I was Featured on Feminology!

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God is so good! Just when you think that nothing is happening with your gifts and passions, God shows up to remind you that He is still in charge no matter what things don’t look like! 😊

I am honored to be included in this wonderful campaign created by two amazing holistic doctors that founded feminology: the art and science of female hormones . The Campaign #blackandbrownwomenofwellness is highlighting women of color that are experts in the health, wellness and natural medicine field! 🧘🏽‍♀️❤️🧘🏽‍♀️! Check my feature this week on their Instagram page @feminologist as well as the other beautiful profiles of the doctors and leaders that are focused on holistic care and natural medicine!

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I was definitely intimidated by all the “doctor” titles of the women that were asked to share their wisdom in the initial group messages that we were in online. I’m learning to not ask questions as God is moving me along for His purposes! I have been studying and learning about hormonal health and balance and the changes that women go through in perimenopause on my personal healing journey. So many things that we as women should be aware of and practicing. I look forward to sharing more in 2019! Here’s the link to the post! Yay! Be sure to check out the other women and the great resources that Dr. Nash and Dr. Nayak share on women’s health on their platform!

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You can visit their website here:

http://www.feminology.org/#blackandbrownwomenofwellness
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By Kara Norman- Empower Her, Inc.

Kara Norman Atlanta Based Women Empowerment Thought Leader and bi-weekly blog contributor.

Kara Norman has been working with Women and Girls for a number of years. Her nonprofit organization Empower Her Inc , have led to many opportunities in the space of making social changes as it deals with women and their many roles in society. You can learn more about Kara Norman and Empower Her Inc. at http://www.empowerherinc.com/

Power Hour with Kara Norman- Self Care Journey

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Self-care is being gentle and patient with yourself during every part of your journey.. especially when you are in the “ in between” stage. ❤️. It’s definitely not comfortable so important to love on yourself even more during transitions. I’m looking forward to continuing my self care practice everyday and I hope you will join me!! Cheers to self-care everyday🥂!!!! #selfawareness

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By Kara Norman- Empower Her, Inc.

Kara Norman Atlanta Based Women Empowerment Thought Leader and bi-weekly blog contributor.

Kara Norman has been working with Women and Girls for a number of years. Her nonprofit organization Empower Her Inc , have led to many opportunities in the space of making social changes as it deals with women and their many roles in society. You can learn more about Kara Norman and Empower Her Inc. at http://www.empowerherinc.com/

Tell Your Story!

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From a young age I have always been fascinated with people’s stories and history. My dad once told me that I should have been a news reporter since I asked so many questions growing up. I guess I am just inquisitive by nature. I want to know the whole story, the backstory, history and every little detail.  Being a psychology major I also loved how our past and environments shape who we are and the power of our journey.

 

Recently I have been intrigued by a brave woman who told her story, her truth and how it changed history.  She shares the same first name as my beautiful grandmother, Fannie Mae Thompson 😊.

Fannie Lou Hamer was a sharecropper in Mississippi who wanted to learn more about voting and how to exercise her right to vote in the 1960’s. She was challenged at every angle to the point of almost losing her life.  She is famous for her quote regarding the oppression that she was facing in those turbulent times:   “I am sick and tired of being sick and tired”.

 

Black voters were met with constant opposition when it came to voting.  It is crazy that even in 2018 we are facing some of the same suppression tactics that were used in the past.  Fannie Lou was given the opportunity to share her story of voter suppression and the violence she endured at the hands of law enforcement to the credentials committee of the Democratic National Convention in 1964.

The proceedings were to be televised nationally and there was fear that her story would cause then President Lyndon Johnson to lose support in the south.  The president decided to interrupt the televised program with an impromptu press conference.  More suppressive tactics in play but thankfully they backfired!  The news media realized what was happening and decided to replay her story later that night.  Her powerful account of her story and her truth shocked the nation and brought light to the horrible violence and atrocities in the South.

 

Her story was the catalyst that helped to pave the way for the passage of the Voter’s Rights Act in 1965 that lead to a huge increase of black voters voting in Mississippi and the South.   Just wow!!!  Fannie Lou continued to share her story and ended up running and becoming a state senator in her district and played a huge part in the civil rights movement.  Just amazing!

I’m honored that Fannie Lou’s actions impact me today as I am able to vote as a black female in the South.

 

Thank you, Fannie Lou and all the amazing trailblazers that were not afraid to speak their truth. I want to encourage everyone to reflect on your own amazing journey/story.   Share your story and gifts with others when you can – you never know the impact your life can have on others or the world!

 

I wanted to end this week’s blog post with the transcript of her powerful speech that day.  You can read it below and here the audio here >>https://youtu.be/ML3WaEsCB98.

 

Fannie Lou Hamer’s Speech:

 

“Mr. Chairman, and to the Credentials Committee, my name is Mrs. Fannie Lou Hamer, and I live at 626 East Lafayette Street, Ruleville, Mississippi, Sunflower County, the home of Sen. James O. Eastland, and Sen. Stennis.

It was the 31st of August in 1962 that 18 of us traveled 26 miles to the county courthouse in Indianola to try to register to become first-class citizens.

We was met in Indianola by policemen, highway patrolmen, and they only allowed two of us in to take the literacy test at the time. After we had taken this test and started back to Ruleville, we was held up by the city police and the state highway patrolmen and carried back to Indianola where the bus driver was charged that day with driving a bus the wrong color.

After we paid the fine among us, we continued on to Ruleville, and Rev. Jeff Sunny carried me four miles in the rural area where I had worked as a timekeeper and sharecropper for 18 years. I was met there by my children, who told me that the plantation owner was angry because I had gone down to try to register.

After they told me, my husband came, and said the plantation owner was raising Cain because I had tried to register. Before he quit talking the plantation owner came and said, “Fannie Lou, do you know — did Pap tell you what I said?”

And I said, “Yes, sir.”

He said, “Well I mean that.” He said, “If you don’t go down and withdraw your registration, you will have to leave.” Said, “Then if you go down and withdraw,” said, “you still might have to go because we are not ready for that in Mississippi.”

And I addressed him and told him and said, “I didn’t try to register for you. I tried to register for myself.”

I had to leave that same night.

On the 10th of September 1962, 16 bullets was fired into the home of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Tucker for me. That same night two girls were shot in Ruleville, Mississippi. Also Mr. Joe McDonald’s house was shot in.

And June the 9th, 1963, I had attended a voter registration workshop, was returning back to Mississippi. Ten of us was traveling by the Continental Trailway bus. When we got to Winona, Mississippi, which is Montgomery County, four of the people got off to use the washroom, and two of the people — to use the restaurant — two of the people wanted to use the washroom.

The four people that had gone in to use the restaurant was ordered out. During this time I was on the bus. But when I looked through the window and saw they had rushed out I got off of the bus to see what had happened. And one of the ladies said, “It was a state highway patrolman and a chief of police ordered us out.”

I got back on the bus and one of the persons had used the washroom got back on the bus, too.

As soon as I was seated on the bus, I saw when they began to get the five people in a highway patrolman’s car. I stepped off of the bus to see what was happening and somebody screamed from the car that the five workers was in and said, “Get that one there.” When I went to get in the car, when the man told me I was under arrest, he kicked me.

I was carried to the county jail and put in the booking room. They left some of the people in the booking room and began to place us in cells. I was placed in a cell with a young woman called Miss Ivesta Simpson. After I was placed in the cell I began to hear sounds of licks and screams, I could hear the sounds of licks and horrible screams. And I could hear somebody say, “Can you say, ‘yes, sir,’ nigger? Can you say ‘yes, sir’?”

And they would say other horrible names.

She would say, “Yes, I can say ‘yes, sir.'”

“So, well, say it.”

She said, “I don’t know you well enough.”

They beat her, I don’t know how long. And after a while she began to pray, and asked God to have mercy on those people.

And it wasn’t too long before three white men came to my cell. One of these men was a state highway patrolman and he asked me where I was from. I told him Ruleville and he said, “We are going to check this.”

They left my cell and it wasn’t too long before they came back. He said, “You are from Ruleville all right,” and he used a curse word. And he said, “We are going to make you wish you was dead.”

I was carried out of that cell into another cell where they had two Negro prisoners. The state highway patrolman ordered the first Negro to take the blackjack.

The first Negro prisoner ordered me, by orders from the state highway patrolman, for me to lay down on a bunk bed on my face.

I laid on my face and the first Negro began to beat. I was beat by the first Negro until he was exhausted. I was holding my hands behind me at that time on my left side, because I suffered from polio when I was six years old.

After the first Negro had beat until he was exhausted, the State Highway Patrolman ordered the second Negro to take the blackjack.

The second Negro began to beat and I began to work my feet, and the State Highway Patrolman ordered the first Negro who had beat me to sit on my feet — to keep me from working my feet. I began to scream and one white man got up and began to beat me in my head and tell me to hush.

One white man — my dress had worked up high — he walked over and pulled my dress — I pulled my dress down and he pulled my dress back up.

I was in jail when Medgar Evers was murdered.

All of this is on account of we want to register, to become first-class citizens. And if the Freedom Democratic Party is not seated now, I question America. Is this America, the land of the free and the home of the brave, where we have to sleep with our telephones off the hooks because our lives be threatened daily, because we want to live as decent human beings, in America?

Thank you.”

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By Kara Norman- Empower Her, Inc.

Kara Norman Atlanta Based Women Empowerment Thought Leader and bi-weekly blog contributor.

Kara Norman has been working with Women and Girls for a number of years. Her nonprofit organization Empower Her Inc , have led to many opportunities in the space of making social changes as it deals with women and their many roles in society. You can learn more about Kara Norman and Empower Her Inc. at http://www.empowerherinc.com/

Calgon Take Me Away!

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Calgon Take Me Away!

The last few weeks have been action packed, busy, fun and exhausting. Yesterday I hit a wall after constantly pushing through pure exhaustion. The low gas warning light on my tank that I had been ignoring for several days suddenly flipped to empty and “Angry Mama Bear” arrived to take over. Everything was irritating me, and my patience was nowhere to be found. The look of horror in my daughter’s eyes when I growled at her to leave the room that mommy was done was not a proud mom moment for sure. Sorry pretty girl, mommy loves you! I stormed through the kitchen slamming anything that I could find and then stormed back into my bedroom. I told anyone within ear shot that I was done for that night and no one could ask me for another thing. I felt like a toddler having a tantrum and it felt good for some reason. Hello two year old Kara. Everyone would have to figure things out for the rest of the night and the house would continue to look like a war zone.

I took off my clothes, put on my pajamas, poured a glass of wine, turned off all the lights, and crawled into bed. I turned on my favorite show, “This Is Us” – love that show! My daughter came back in a few times with a stomach ache and a few other things, but I stayed in the bed and told her where to find something to settle her stomach and directed her to get things together. I settled in to watch the show and guilt slowly crept in and reminded me of the million things I needed to do and that my attitude and behavior was not nice. I pushed past those feelings and settled into bed and allowed myself to relax. I feel better today but still need to pour into my tank and need more self-care time for sure.

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As I thought about pulling something together for this week’s post (I missed by deadline so sorry Elisha 😉) all I could think of was the Calgon bath soap that was sitting by my tub. I remembered seeing the Calgon commercial as a little girl in the 80’s. It depicted a busy mom stressed with work, home and life. She got to her breaking point and screamed “Calgon Take Me Away”. Instantly she was transported into a beautiful luxurious spa like tub in a tranquil setting surrounded by the most amazing bubbles. She looked to be a million miles away from her home. She described the experience as a luxurious getaway. That’s some powerful bubble bath, Calgon I have my passport ready! I picked up a box of this magic potion a few months ago and I must say it is very relaxing!

A bubble bath is DEFINIETLY on my to do list for this evening as well as my intention to remind you to get away mentally as well as physically even if for a few moments. Take care of you. I know that I share these tips often, but it is easy to get to that empty tank and miss all the warning alerts at each mile marker.

Cheers to Calgon Take Me Away Moments, Mama bear growls and the journey to take care of YOU first!

By Kara Norman- Empower Her, Inc.

Kara Norman Atlanta Based Women Empowerment Thought Leader and bi-weekly blog contributor.

Kara Norman has been working with Women and Girls for a number of years. Her nonprofit organization Empower Her Inc , have led to many opportunities in the space of making social changes as it deals with women and their many roles in society. You can learn more about Kara Norman and Empower Her Inc. at http://www.empowerherinc.com/

“My Mental Breakdown”

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Last Friday around 1:13 in the afternoon I experienced a mental breakdown. Is that okay to share or talk about these days??  If not, this is a break from all regularly scheduled programs that are being broadcasted on the picture perfect social media channel.  I interrupt this program with a dose of reality.

 

After a week full of 9 – 10 hour days covering for a colleague’s work load on top of my own – my brain could take no more.  I had received three calls from frustrated suppliers and managers that morning.  During the last call I could feel my voice starting to crack as I tried to listen to this manager’s frustration.  Nothing to do with me, just her frustration with the process.  I hit my red ‘end call’ button on my phone and started to shake, then the tears started to flow.   Luckily, I was working from home. The dam that was holding all the stress and anxiety of trying to handle too many things together finally broke.  I mean I was seriously sobbing uncontrollably the kind of cry that comes from a deep place within.  My laptop continued to chime with incoming emails, reminders, skype messages pinging me everyone wanting something. All I could do was cry –  I could not take in one more thing.

 

Thankfully my husband returned home early and found me.  He didn’t know what was wrong and I could barely get any words out.  He told me that I needed to message my manager to tell him I needed a break as I was in full meltdown. He had watched me come home from work that week each night like a zombie.  How do you message your manager telling him that you are having a mental meltdown?   It’s not like in a sports game where you can yell to the referee that you need a timeout – this is life.  You can’t use the words “mental breakdown” in a skype or email message at work.  Well this girl had to break that ‘rule’ on a beautiful Friday afternoon as I simply could not pull myself together.

 

My manager responded after a few seconds and asked why I did not ask for help earlier in the week and wondered how things got to that point.  I told him that I thought I was handling things okay, but evidently, I wasn’t.  More embarrassment as I continued to try to explain how I got to this point – where tears were spilling onto my hands and splashing my laptop as I typed. He made me step away from work for a few hours to regroup.

 

I was in shock that I got to the point of breaking down. As a mom, I’m used to mentally juggling a million different things, throw work and life on top of that and this is just another day in my world.  Nope not that day – my brain and spirit said otherwise.  The whistle had been blown I was officially down and in time out.  I feel slightly embarrassed and vulnerable post meltdown at work especially with my managers.  I guess my meltdown did result in a conversation led by my managers the following week making sure that the team knew that although things are super busy we need to know that we can ask for help.  There is even discussion of a monthly mental health day.  I guess my tears are making a difference, lol!

 

It has me thinking, why is this the norm? Trying to keep everything buttoned up, perfect and okay.  We give our best selves to our work all day and come home with nothing to give but irritability and exhaustion to the people that matter the most.  Our society rewards and encourages this work horse, lean in, slaying it mentally. I especially do not think this is good for women and moms. We must take more things off our plate, speak up and ask for help.  The norm should not be to run a million miles an hour and juggling a billion things.  If you do have a lot going on you need to have more downtime and self-care.  It needs to be okay to ask for a time out at work.  Where do we find that courage to say we are not okay and make this a priority?  Our western culture rewards the hustle and places more value on material possessions, success and power while eastern cultures embrace going with the natural flow of life, shorter work days, time with family, slowing down and taking care of yourself spiritually, mentally and physically.

 

Last week’s meltdown was a scary wakeup call that I was NOT expecting. I feel differently and want to change my approach to my mental health.  I also hope to create social change in our culture and how we work especially as women in a society that was created by men with traditional 9-6 values.  Our bodies were not meant to slay it Monday – Friday for 8-10 hrs.  Especially as women we go through monthly cycles that sometime require us to rest more or need more downtime.  We are taught as woman to ignore our bodies and to be like men, umm yeah no we are different we birth babies for crying out loud! Our work systems were not designed with this in mind.   It is time for more conversations around this topic and change.  I’ll start here with sharing my meltdown moment instead of the highlight reels of my life that we all choose to share daily.

 

I hope my emergency broadcast will help someone.  If you are in a meltdown moment, find someone to talk to, if you have EAP (Employee Assistance Program) at work use it. If you are in extreme crisis and no one to talk to call 1-800-273-8255 or even message me if needed.  I’m here to help and support!

 

Feel free to leave a comment about any recent meltdowns that you have experienced or practices that you have in place to protect your mental health and wellness!

 

Cheers to breakdowns that lead to getting the help that we need!

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By Kara Norman- Empower Her, Inc.

Kara Norman Atlanta Based Women Empowerment Thought Leader and bi-weekly blog contributor.

Kara Norman has been working with Women and Girls for a number of years. Her nonprofit organization Empower Her Inc , have led to many opportunities in the space of making social changes as it deals with women and their many roles in society. You can learn more about Kara Norman and Empower Her Inc. at http://www.empowerherinc.com/

Happy National Creativity Day – Nourish Your Creative Spirit!

banner for Kara Power Hour2May 30th is the official day to celebrate the creative spirits in your world! It’s National Creativity Day! Raising my virtual glass and throwing some confetti in honor of the musicians, hairstylist, authors, actors/actresses, artist, DJ’s, filmmakers, photographers, carpenters, designers, chefs, caterers, bloggers, engineers, stylist and tons of other creatives in the world. When you really think about it everything besides nature started with a creative thought. What a cool day to stop and take time to toast the power of the imagination!

I have always loved creating things since I was a little girl. I would write, paint, re-arrange my room almost weekly, try to make things, one time at 6 years I even tried to make shoes out of cardboard!  It has carried over into my grown-up life! I LOVE everything about creating events for women and girls and gathering beautiful details and extraordinary content to make my experiences special. I love hosting family and friends in my home – and making everyday gatherings something wonderful and memorable. Why be boring!

Sometimes in life we can bury our creativity with the day to day hum drum of life. So It is important to always make time to be creative and tap into your God given talents that you were born to bring to the world.

Here are 5 great tips to help nourish your creative spirit!

  1. Work when you are inspired and excited! I know there are certain ebbs and flows in my creativity and I am learning that when the spirit is flowing within it’s time to capture new ideas, design new things and take the steps to execute a plan. As a woman I have noticed my natural rhythms and at certain times of the month my energy levels are down, creativity is out the window and I need take time to rest and recharge.  I am learning to not push myself during this time and mother myself if needed.  Then a few weeks later I am the energizer bunny ready to roll!  There are even certain times of year or seasons when I am more inspired. Take note of these times and work with your flow to make the most of your creativity.
  2. Get out of your comfort zone and try something different! Set aside time to write down at least 10 things that you would like to try this summer and get out there and try them!  I am normally a person that does not like to try new things. I always order the same food at restaurants but lately I have been trying new dishes and trying to cook new things.  I am normally a person that always wears black or dark colors but now starting to branch out and wear different patterns and more bold colors. Making little changes in the everyday experiences helps to feed our creative spirits.
  3. Find creativity in the everyday moments in life!  Try and find ways to infuse your creative spirit into the boring task of life.  Find innovative ways to do the laundry, cook, clean, and work to make things more fun and interesting. Changing your mindset about everyday tasks can do wonders!
  4. Find and connect with other creative people on a regular basis!  I was blessed to be a part of Kustom Kreations recent Portfolio and Perspectives event last month where event stylist came together to do styled shoots. The creative energy in that space was palpable and on fire!  I loved seeing all the beautiful details and how they came together. Surround yourself with creative people especially when you are feeling not so inspired! Check out upcoming events on Eventbrite that interest you and get out and connect!
  5. Create space and take care of your creative gifts! I am learning to spend more time in mediation/prayer to get still, quiet and connect with God. He ultimately put every talent and gift in us when we were created. He knows best how to nurture, cultivate and grow our gifts.  Getting the right rest and having time to dream and be still allows things to flow more smoothly. When I am busy or tired I have no space, energy or desire to do anything but the basics. It’s important to take care of ourselves and be replenished! Also, schedule time to disconnect from social media and the busyness of life to find quiet spaces especially in nature to flow in YOUR gifts not someone else’s that you see online.

 

Cheers to your creative spirit – may you unleash more of your greatness into the world today and every day! Feel free to leave a comment and tell us what your creative gifts are or some of the new creative things that you would like to explore this summer!

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By Kara Norman- Empower Her, Inc.

 

Kara Norman Atlanta Based Women Empowerment Thought Leader and bi-weekly blog contributor.

 

Kara Norman has been working with Women and Girls for a number of years. Her nonprofit organization Empower Her Inc , have led to many opportunities in the space of making social changes as it deals with women and their many roles in society. You can learn more about Kara Norman and Empower Her Inc. at http://www.empowerherinc.com/

Cheers to Spring!

 

banner for Kara Power HouWe’ve come through a cozy season of hibernation and hopefully, we are feeling restored and rejuvenated to welcome spring and a brand new quarter!

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Here are a few tips to help you spring forward:

 

  • Refresh your mind!  Mediation is a daily reset to your mind, body and spirit. Simple Five minute meditations are perfect ways to reset your mind and get aligned with your spirit. Oprah and Deepak Chopra just launched another free 21-day mediation series that focuses on Shedding the Weight of the Mind Body and Spirt. Sign up today – they are only on Day 2 so still time to catch up!https://chopracentermeditation.com

 

  • Refresh your sleep!  What’s the single most important thing you can do to start each day with more energy, optimism, and freedom?  Getting better sleep!  I am so excited that one of my favorite wellness experts, Latham Thomas, is launching a new series of mediations focused on reclaiming deep and truly restorative rest.  Her complete audio program called Beditations is designed to show us how to reboot ourselves and help us get grounded, present and centered, sleep better, and recharge our physical, cognitive, and spiritual reserves.  I can use more siestas in my life! You can pre-order your copy today by visiting this link:https://www.soundstrue.com/store/latham-thomas.html

 

  • Refresh routines – Break up the boring routines of life and get some spontaneity going! Try a different class at your gym that is way out of your comfort zone or take out a map of your state and pick a random place to visit for a quick day trip.  Self-Care is also a great area to shake things up and put yourself at the top of your list of priorities.  What would you love to do but too scared to try? Grab a friend and give it a shot!

 

  • Refresh your health – Pay closer attention to how your body feels and listen to your intuition. This is a perfect time to schedule that yearly physical and put your health first! Now that the days are longer and things are warming up let’s get moving and on the path to wellness!

 

Happy first week of Spring! Cheers to clearing your mind, cleansing your soul and rebooting for the new season!

By Kara Norman- Empower Her, Inc.