Halloween has come and gone and left me with a new perspective on parenthood and my journey as a woman moving through my life. See for me this was my first year not rushing home to get my daughters ready to trick or treat. I have a sophomore in college and an 8th grader in middle school. This year my youngest daughter had other plans that involved her going home with a friend and trick or treating in a neighborhood other than my own. I woke up on Halloween morning to a page full of past Facebook Halloween memories. As I scrolled through the memories filled with snaggletooth smiles and dozens of costumes between the two of them over the years, my heart sank. Where had the time gone?
I fought crazy traffic after leaving work and came home to a quiet house. My husband had picked up candy for the trick or treaters earlier that day. It was my first time being home to greet the trick or treaters as I always took the girls out and hubby stayed behind. It was so quiet and empty. I texted my youngest to see how things were going and reminded her that I needed to see a picture at least. I checked in with college girl to see what her plans were and I received a selfie of her with the caption “I am a tired college student #spooky”. This new normal is very hard at times for sure. I hugged my hubby for comfort and we settled in to welcome the trick or treaters. My dog comes around the corner and I had a light bulb moment and found a costume that I picked up a few years ago and wrestled him down to take a few pictures. He was not happy, but I felt so much better.
As the evening went along I got to see all the little neighborhood kids at the door and the proud parents. I reflected on my experiences with my girls and I realized that I tried to do too much and was often not fully present for many wonderful moments. I was that busy super mom juggling a million things. In our country, we fought hard for women’s rights over the past decades to be equal to men. I think we swung way too far over to the other side. We have this new badge of honor that we wear that is celebrated when we are slaying it as women, crushing goals and the myth that we can have it all. All the while we are more sick, tired, depressed and not living in the moment. Yesterday was a huge reminder of the importance of being in the present, taking things off our plates and slowing down as women and especially moms. I never thought of the day my girls would become more independent or the day they would leave the nest.
This past year of transition has left me feeling lost, filled with anxiety, depressed, unmotivated and just not myself. I am in the process of healing, practicing more self-care and redefining who I am as a woman now that my roles are changing. I look back and realized all the balls I had in the air are not as important as the quality time spent with my kids when I was not super stressed, worn out or distracted. Yesterday was a reminder that we are constantly evolving and change is happening all around us. On this week’s Empower Hour I want to remind everyone to drop a few balls every day that you are trying to juggle to make room to fully embrace the special moments in life!
Here are some great tools to learn to do less, be more present and drop more balls:
- Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less: by Tiffany Dufu
- Own Your Glow – A Soulful Guide to Luminous Living and Crowing the Queen Within: by Latham Thomas
- Oprah & Deepak Chopra Making Every Moment Matter 21 Day Mediation Series (https://chopracentermeditation.com)
Celebrate Life Every day!
We are so excited to welcome an empowerment segment to our blog! Our bi-weekly contributor Kara Norman is no stranger to the empowerment world and has been working with Women and Girls for a number of years. Her nonprofit organization Empower Her Inc , have led to many opportunities in the space of making social changes as it deals with women and their many roles in society. You can learn more about Kara Norman and Empower Her Inc. at http://www.empowerherinc.com/
Reflections of Foundation of Strength!
Remembering my grandmother’s legacy today on her birthday. So important to tap into the strength of the amazing women that came before me and make me who I am today!#mylegacy #heritage
I posted this about her in 2013:
Today is my Grandmother’s birthday, she passed away a few days after President Obama was elected. I remember calling her the next day after he was elected and she was so proud to have lived to see that day! On this day, I miss her terribly, but know that she is so proud of me in Heaven. She was a STRONG woman of faith and I feel her prayers carrying me through life now. I think I get some of my empowerment spirit from her. She attended Clark Atlanta University at a time when women were not going to college, she even majored in math! She told me that she remembered seeing Mary Mckeod Bethune and W.E.B Dubois on her campus teaching classes! I also remember learning that after my grandmother retired she used to teach a woman in her 70s how to read once a week! She was also an empowered mom raising 6 children in a very difficult time. My grandmother taught elementary school when schools were integrated many years ago. Could you imagine being a teacher in that classroom on that day! Thank you Grandma Lucy for leaving such a beautiful and strong legacy and thank you God for giving me such a wonderful role model and support system for so many years!
This scripture came in my spirit this morning “I can do ALL things in Christ who strengthens me” Philippians 4:13. I immediately thought about my Grandma Lucy who was a strong woman of faith and wisdom. She raised 6 children and endured many trials. She always had a open bible on her bed until the end. Today I felt her strength that no matter how hard and challenging things are you must have your faith to triumph through it all.
Thank you Grandma for passing down one of the best gifts a family can receive..FAITH!
Have a faith filled Day Everyone!
Ancestral Prayer– Taken From Own you Glow – Latham Thomas!
“Light a candle and sit in silence. Ask for guidance as you tune in to the silence. Start to speak to you ancestors silently or out loud”
I honor my unique gifts, talents and powers. I come from a strong and powerful people. I release the baggage and ancestral wounds that have been past on to me. I will turn the pain and struggle of my past into purpose. I celebrate the freedom that I have because of sacrifices made before me. I promise to honor my lineage and live out my truth. I bow to the legacy that gave rise to me. Through my thoughts and actions, I pave the path for a legacy I will leave behind”
Labor Day True Confessions: “It’s All Good until It’s time to do the Work” – I love planning thinking & creating and so much more… I have notebooks filled with ideas on top of ideas!!! It’s so much fun to even plan every detail in my imagination… and then it’s time to put your thoughts in motion and that’s when the real work begins… and those ideas stay tucked away in the beautiful inspiring notebook that I have so many of…. Then there are days that I’m reminded.. you then have a choice is this going to be a figment of my imagination or we going to make this real by putting in the work… Here’s to Making small steps to the bigger picture!
My Gift To You!
Last year during a chat and chew meet up with a few of my friends I gifted each one of them with a gift box and scallop paper. Explaining to each one of them that I desire to give them a gift of their hearts. Not really knowing what that is for each one of them the small gift box and scallop paper represented that for me. I also gifted myself with the box as well. With careful thought when I think of desires of my heart I write it down and place it in the box.
I explain to the ladies to open up their boxes in about six months to see the manifestation of their gifts.
So my gift to all you all today is If you were to receive the desires of your heart what would it be.? Download our gift card here! Write down your desires place it in your box (create you a pretty box using ribbon and other crafty stuff) Take your time on gifting yourself and I suggest opening up to see what you’ve manifested in about 6 months!
Download Your Gift Request Cards Here!
Directions: Download the File Print off File and Cut
If you choose you can use a paper punch and colored paper to create fancy scalloped gift requests (as seen in the image above)
After viewing the biopic today… Just wanted to pull out all my classic CDs!
About this past weekend!
Four of the six of our self proclaimed Real planners of Atlanta (we are a group of friends brought together for our love and passion for events.) We are 5 alumni of Correllations LLC. event training.
Today we were coming together to celebrate RPOA Shelia’s birthday and the restaurant she had initially chosen we found out once we arrived opened at 4 our luncheon was scheduled at 2:00p.m. so we made a quick decision to change spots and go to another restaurant in the area. After driving down the road and making a left turn we wound up at Brio and just like that we realized that is the place we made each other’s acquaintance. Flash back story 4 years ago we all took part in a baby shower celebrating RPOA Lawanna welcoming baby Victoria. Helena and Rhonda (not pictured) hosted a beautiful Munchkin theme shower and Kustom Kreation Photography (us) were hired as the photographer. Krista and Shelia were assisting in helping the planners of the event.
So today by accident we wound up of the same place we begin what we didn’t know then but haves learned now a friendship sisterhood that we can smile upon and look at where it all begin. It’s amazing how things like that happen.
Have a Blessed Day & Week!